I can be myself when I'm with you
How many times have you told this to someone who is dear to you? What does this really mean? Why is it that we get this feeling with only a few people and not with everyone we know? Even extroverts for that matter must have said this sometime or the other. This means that extroverts also have an introverted side to them. So coming to the point, what does it mean when I say "I can be myself when I'm with you"? My mentor once mentioned a very small point about a guy or a girl trying to impress the other when they meet for the first time before their marriage, and I drove my thoughts in that direction. I tried to connect it to this topic and it made so much sense to me. I really can be myself with someone only when I'm trying not to impress that person. Every moment of our lives we are communicating with people of different status and we try to match theirs and try to impress them all the time. We can never be ourselves with such people. The way we talk to people, the way they talk to us, never can this feeling of 'being myself with you' come to light. This feeling only comes when you're actually trying to understand the other person for what he/she is, and not let your stupid thoughts of 'impressing' come in the way. When I sit silently for fifteen minutes with the person I love, I can actually feel the communication happening amidst the silence. This is true communication which is caressed by love and non judgement, and this is when you feel yourself with the person. You need not impress that person anymore. Just to prove that we're worth, we resort to some amazing things which are unimaginable. All of this is just a result of competitions, and the trait of impressing others which comes naturally to us, because we are all competing with each other to get the best. Out of a hundred people you know, there would be one or two who would ask you to "be yourself" or "Don't ever change". These are the few people who need you for what you are. Stick onto them. These are people with whom you can "be yourself"..
2 comments:
Ah makes sense...but to get here involves a process of impressing, judging and a hundred other nonsensical things...Then you fine tune your relationships..takes shitloads of energy, involvement and decision making :) Having said this, I'd like to point out that you have a beautiful mind :)
Yes it involves impressing, but only until you actually feel the need to understand the person :) Once you start understanding someone, you never would feel like impressing.. and that's when true relationships are nurtured :)
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